And it’s really exciting.
We aren’t closing shop on this one. But we feel like we’ve exhausted all of the topics we can come up with, so we are branching out to focus on the topic that first got us to the place of our amicable divorce: Devon coming out as a gay man to me, his straight wife.
I didn’t know that I had been living in a Mixed Orientation Marriage (MOM), but it was 10 years of marriage and 3 kids later that I found that out. And it was a shock, to say the very least.
But we worked through it. Sometimes I still find myself working through issues that stem from it, but it is so much easier now compared to the day of Devon’s Big Reveal.
There is a need in today’s world for people to find support and encouragement when they discover that their spouse is gay. Even though more resources exist now than nearly a decade ago, it is still one of the most under-served populations of people involved in the lives of LGBTQIA communities.
Our personal story has a bigger layer to it than some others. We had the added burden/issue of the Church’s view on homosexuality.
And the group of straight spouses that the Church affects is truly under-served in their Church communities. Lots of hurt, lots of burdens laid, and more than their fair share of judgement can occur from the very people who claim to love them.
So, our new blog, called SameSides: Your Spouse is Gay. What Now? is meant to be a place of safety, love, support and encouragement for the straight spouse in a Mixed Orientation Marriage. Come and join me and many others who have traveled that road and have turned something seemingly tragic into something that bloomed into beauty.
You’re going to be okay. Move along your unique road at whatever pace you need to, but keep in mind that the best really is yet to come.
Love, Emily with The Reese’s and Their Pieces