No Accidents

ChangeOfSeasonsWhelp.  Life just keeps coming at you, whether you will it or not.  The good and the not-so-good.

Devon is one busy dude.  He opened up his own law firm a few months ago and is his typical busy-body, OCD self.  Clients, finances, bills, calendaring, child support, maintaining a healthy relationship with Felipe… these are all things that can weigh him down.  Add three busy kids in the mix with places to go and things to do, and I feel for him.  But he keeps on going, most of the time with a smile on his face.  I am so proud of him.

His dad, Fred, took a turn for the worse last week.  Yesterday morning, March 23, 2013, “Fast Freddy”, the “Silver Fox,” passed peacefully in his home.  Family members were there, including myself, as a testimony to the love that they have for him.  Fred, you will be missed.

Talk about a lot going on.

To top things off, life brought us some good stuff, too.  The Huffington Post featured our family in their “Gay Voices” section on Friday!  It was such good timing for Devon.  What a blessing to be recognized and we are so proud of our Rainbow Family.  We are also sincerely humbled because without working through the tough stuff, we wouldn’t be where we are today.

Where are you today?  Are you going through some tough stuff?  While we write about amicable divorce and getting along with your ex, we know that it’s more than that.  Divorce is tough.  Dealing with the breakup of a family sucks no matter how you look at it.  But the stuff of life that we talk about is further reaching than that.

We want to encourage you to keep moving forward.  Or maybe you need to stay where you are in the moment and think and feel what you’re going through.  We encourage you to do that, too.

Just keep in mind that eventually you have the goal of moving forward, accepting what is and making the most of what you’ve been dealt.  Life will continue to keep coming at you, whether you will it or not.  Take what you’ve been given and use it to help others. If not right now, then eventually.

What is the purpose of our existence if not to touch others lives?  Fast Freddy did this.  Devon and I try to do this now.  Use what life has given you and give it purpose.  The Universe will respond.

We love you, Fred.

There are no accidents, all things have a deep and calculated purpose; sometimes the methods employed by Providence seem strange and incongruous, but we have only to be patient and wait for the result: then we recognize that no others would have answered the purpose, and we are rebuked and humbled. –Mark Twain

Fred A Okay

Everything’s gonna be okay. We love you, Fred.

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